So many men, or women who read this blog, may wonder what Penis Enlargement has to do with erectile dysfunction. My experience in the Penis Enlargement field has allowed me to discuss erectile dysfunction with a vast group of men. As I stated in the last thread, most of these men did not have any physical impotence, their lack of erections (or quality of) was more of a psychological issue.
Negative thoughts plague us from all directions. We fall victim to these negative thoughts and they prevent us from accomplishing many goals or hopes as we allow the power of the negative mind stop us from the good things in life, things we all deserve. Many men feel as though they don't deserve these good things and that is what prevents them from acquiring them. As cliche as this may sound, it is very true, if you believe you can have something you can. Whether it is a car, a house, a job, a relationship, and yes, a large penis that can become erect. These are all within the reach of those who desire them but their lack of belief keeps them inches away from our grasp.
In Penis Enlargement the mental piece is vital to making gains. The physical work is completely necessary but, in a sense, it is a result of the motivational factors of a positive outlook and a belief in the goal and ourselves. Dreaming of something is the first step but by itself things rarely manifest themselves. I have seen many men in Penis Enlargement fail because they believed this would happen even before they begin. I have also seen men come into Penis Enlargement and make insane gains because they believed they could, they believed they deserved them and they were motivated to do the work needed to make this happen.
I have often said "There is money all over the ground, all you need to do is pick it up." This has very little to do with monetary factors but more about taking what is rightfully yours. Everywhere in life there are opportunities, choices, different paths and infinite possibilities. We choose one when we make a choice. When we make a decision our choice becomes they reality we believe in. This is as scientific as it is philosophical. Read the poem I have quoted by Robert Frost, understand it and see it's application to this thread. It has helped me understand choices I have made and will make. It is a sort of anthem for those who need to believe in themselves and the choices they make.
"Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
and sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
and looked down one as far as I could
to where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
and having perhaps the better claim
because it was grassy and wanted wear;
though as for that, the passing there
had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
in leaves no feet had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less travelled by,
and that has made all the difference"
When we take a road less traveled, perhaps a change of attitude, we open up many wonderful revelations about ourselves. Just as in gaining in Penis Enlargement requires a positive outlook so does curing yourself from impotence. Erectile dysfunction, for many, is a choice. A decision that has created the necessary mental changes to make erections difficult. Changing this attitude is no small feat, it requires a strong, cognitive battle. A daily battle until we have become what we we want, what we deserve. The thoughts many men have about ED start pre-sex and manifest as sex progresses. A self defeatist dialogue may look like this:
I am feeling so sexual, I want to have sex with my girl.
But what if I can't get an erection?
Man, I hope I can get an erection and stay erect.
If I can't she will think I am such a loser.
Oh my goodness it is time for sex.
Come on, please work!
WHy is it not working *the hot flashes begin
What the fuck? Why is this happening?
*frustration sets in
This really sucks
This always happens.
She must think I am a loser.
I bet her old boyfriend never had this problem.
Fuck this, I will just stop having sex.
I never really deserved to have sex anyway
I have always been a loser
I hate myself.
etc., etc., etc.
Sound familiar? To many who have this psychological conversation may sound just like you. First we need to recognize the origin of this thought pattern to see where it began. It may have been an off night where you were not all there. Sex did not work and perhaps an argument ensued between your mate and you. Perhaps it was an injury you sustained that convinced you that your penis was "broke" somehow. Maybe it is a psychological trauma from a girl who may have belittled you as a man in some way. The reasons are numerous but it is important to find the origin of this thought pattern. Next thing I gather from the self conversation is a extreme tendency of irrationality. There are many definitive and judgmental term used. Things like "I can't", "This always happens" or "I hate myself". These terms leave no room for options. They are self accepted agreements that you wholeheartedly believe in.
There is also a tendency to make assumptions about the thoughts of your partner as stated in the dialogue as "She must think I am a loser." or "I bet her old boyfriend never had this problem." Assumptions are an agreement you make with yourself internally. Once an assumption is made we think and act on it as if we knew it were really true. Most of us have no idea how to read minds but we still become psychic when sex is involved. Many times, assumptions also lead to outward arguments with our partner. We may think "She must think I am a loser" and while in our frustrated state blurt out a remark to the affect of that assumption. In many ways we do this to affirm the negative thoughts about ourselves, it is almost as if we are looking for confirmation from our partner. When the argument ensues it usually leads to things being said that were not meant and trust being broken. I can understand this as the dialogue predicted it.
We can also get a picture of the human psyche, a picture that displays an addition to suffering. We, as humans, can become addicted to suffering just like any other habitual problems. It is much easier for us to fail than it is to succeed. We have been taught all our lives that we are not deserving of better things, we subscribe to the negative people around us, we validate our negative outlooks by the environment around us.
There is a strange phenomenon that is present in abusive relationships. Lets say a woman is being physically abused and leaves her man. In many cases she will repeatedly return to the relationship. Even though she is beat and abused she still returns. This has a lot to do with this discussion as she too is addicted. She has made an agreement with herself that this is what she deserves therefore she makes it a reality. This type of behavior is also present in any other form of self loathing where we allow the same thing to happen over and over even though it destroys us. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and hoping for different results. Of course they never happen but we think somehow they will.
We may hope that impotence does not happen but we still follow the same line of negative thinking hoping, somehow, it will change, get better or resolve itself. The same holds true in penis enlargement when men want to make gains so desperately but have already set themselves up to be the undeserving loser they believe they are. As sad as it is, it is true. When I first started penis enlargement I never allowed my thoughts to remain negative. I was constantly working on cognitive change and positive self affirmation. Penis enlargement for me was a snap. I believed in it, I believed I could gain doing it, I was motivated with a positive outlook, I was willing to work my ass off to get it and I got it. I left no room for failure, in my mind I had already accomplished my penis enlargement goals before I even started. The mental picture was clear and I only needed to become it...I did.
In erectile dysfunction the same approach need to be applied. As fake as it may seem we need to change the self dialogue and practice this mantra, of sorts, constantly until it sticks.
Lets look at the dialogue again with a complete positive outlook:
I am feeling so sexual, I want to have sex with my girl.
I can't wait, it is going to be so good?
Man, I can see myself thrusting with such power, such stamina, such virility.
She will be so impressed.
AWESOME! It is time for sex.
Let me start with some passionate foreplay and make my girl hot!
These hot flashes are so sexy, I love sweaty sex.
This is the best sex ever!
This is really incredible.
I am such a master of sex.
I know she thinks I am the man!
She's never had sex this good.
Fuck, I love having sex.
I deserve this so much!
I am such a winner!
I love myself.
etc., etc., etc.
This is the initial ticket to your way back to erections of fury. Physically you can add penis enlargement as one of the incredible side effects is much stronger erections and staying power. There is so much for you to discover as a positive person...there is so much money to pick up.
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