I need a little help here please

[55chevy]

Guys I need a little help in the affairs of the heart. Let me start with a little back ground. I met the girl who later became my wife at a very early age. We were together constantly from the time we were about twelve years old. After we were married a short time she was involved in a fatal accident. I didn't date for quite awhile and then out of the blue I met someone. We were involved in a very long term relationship that just hasn't worked out. I have finially decided to end things and move on. This brings me to my problem. There is a girl that I have known for a long time. I know her only well enough to speak if we come into contact. We aren't friends but we met a long time ago and have bumped into each other from time to time. I live in a small town and she is also friends with my ex. I have always said that if I were ever single she would be the person I asked out. We are now both single but I don't have any idea how to go about contacting or approaching her. I have never been in this position in my life. I never had to go out and meet anyone because I was always with my wife. What I am trying to say is that I feel I never developed the social skills that I need now. The thought of just calling her up scares the heck out of me. On top of that she is just a knockout. I'm afraid that she will intimidate me so bad that I won't even be able to talk to her. I was born quite shy but I'm ok after being around a person for awhile. Come on guys or girls help me out a little and don't say "just call her up" either cause I could have done that without any help.

[Pig Benis]

Dude, I need that same info. I'm basically in the same situation as you right now, just not with the wife thing. I'm sorry that hppened to you.

I'm relatively shy, except around really close friends and my family. If I try, and I have, to talk to a girl with the mindset of being more than a friend, I just freak out inside. I just get really nervous. I know a fair amount of girls and two of them are basically like sisters to me, and I don't think anything past that.

I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend. I would really like one. I do feel really lonely at times because I see many of my friends so happy when they are with their partners.

I know it may sound weird for me to be offering advice when I'm in this position, and I need to heed it too, but the way I see it is it's just like a fear. You can live with that fear all your life or you could break that fear. That's the only way you can get rid of a fear is to face it head on. I say just ask the girl. The worst she can say is no. You may feel bad, even shitty, but at least it will be out there. You will have this incredible weight off your shoulders.

Wow. I really need to heed my own advice. Hopefully this helps me as well as you, but still, get some advice from experienced guys, not some guy who is in the same boat.

Hope it helps (both of us).

[55chevy]

Thanks for the reply. I haven't been split with my ex for very long and right now I'm just sitting back and looking at things. I don't want to rush into anything without really thinking it through. I was born very shy but I'm not afraid to make that next step when the time comes and I think I'll be alright if I can get my foot in the door. I think my biggest problem could be the fact that she knows my ex and they used to be pretty good friends. What I would really like is some ideas about creative ways to approach this person. Although we have known each other for awhile I think she will be suprised when I approach her. I just hope it will be a good suprised instead of a bad one. I guess I'm just a little spoiled when it comes to relationships. In the past the females have made it pretty clear that they were interested. I do't think that's going to happen this time and it has me a little out of my comfort zone. Big, I certainly don't think I know it all when it comes to women but let me encourage you to push yourself out of your comfort zone too. A good relationship between two people who really care about each other is something that is very special and I hope you find the one you are looking for. Just try to be yourself and keep your eyes open. You can't ever tell when "miss right" will come along.

[AcesHigh]

I am 20 years old, and have a myriad of drug abuse problems which I try to fix. At the same time I enjoy an moderatley social life and use intellect much less often than logic as my guide. Intellect leads to overanalyzing things, where logic just lets me follow well....der. Both go hand in hand though, so try to balance those two key elements of mental capacity.

If I can get chicks, with my psychotic drug influenced random conversations that pertain to nothing, then you can. All I did, was try. Just go up to a good looking girl that you may have caught eyes with or smiled at and talk to her you sissy. She wants you to. It is pretty obvious if a girl is noticing you, looking at your eyes is a common sign, and a sure sign. If you lock eyes with a girl whom you never met....maintain that glance for 2 seconds as you walk by. See what she does.


If she smiles or makes an obvious interested look or even lustful you are good to go. However there are also negative signs to look out for, they are many though and descriptions are futiel since it is obvious when girl is not into you.

I have fucked so many girls the first night I met them. More so then ones that stuck around. That is the kind of guy and person I am. I live by the viking way with nihilistic views regarding most of society. So fucking random hotties is ok. And the more you do it, the better you get at it.

So this girl that you know...hah, it should be easy. Invite her over for dinner, or take her out. And let her know that you are into her, let her know that you are not trying to smother her with sexual advancements or love(for now heh) and that you just want to enjoy her presence and get to know her on a intimate level. Let her know you are interested in "her." Let her know you want to be with her. It isn't technical from a logical standopint, but from an intellectual standopint. Getting with a girl can be the most complicated exchange of delicate situations possible.

With logic on my side, I get what I want by engaging in conversations, they got what they wanted. both Intellect and logic got me laid though so hey, whatever works.

If you need help from a veteran of the scene, haha, talk to me or any of the lady's men here.

[AcesHigh]

Here is some more adivce, you can't be indimidated. Don't even think about it. I approach some of the hottest women I see, only if I get a glance or two from them. I try to look good sometimes, and on these days the really hot girls give me the look of interest from time to time. So try that maybe, try to look just fucking flawless. Be clean and just try to stun her with your presence and natural features. What I like to do is make it obvious that I have large arms and a large penis. I wear tight jeans and sleevless shirts. I also like to dress to kill, I can dress totally thrashy, and still pick up certain girls that are into the megadeth look.

I have been with two just absolutley gorgeous women recently. And neither were hard to pick up, both of them liked me even though I showed little interest at first, and I fucked both of them within hours of meeting them. They wanted it, not me.

I don't know exactly how I do that, and it seems to come and go with the passing of time. I also look like a metalhead, and some girls just like that regardless of the guy. And some girls like the fact that I am hung, and alot of girls that dont even talk to me, know about my dick. So try to get out man, you'll do great.