best female friend

[associate]

I used to like my best friend and about 2 years ago i let her know and she turned me down, and i got over it and i stopped liking her, but now I think she is the perfect girl for me, and I don't know how to make her want me back, Ive known her for about 7 years and we've been really good friends but i want her to be mine now, do any of you guys have advice on changing her mind or do you think i should just give up and go elsewhere.

[sikdogg]

You're deep in the "friend zone" bro... You can try but i don't think you're gonna change her mind.

[bigeasy]

There is one way you might be able to land the girl but you have to be consistent.

"Put her on ice". A women wants what she can't have. If she calls, don't call her back like 3 minutes later... Give her like a day before you call her back.

A challenge is what's going to turn her on. Being her best friend doesn't really make you a challenge. I've seen one guy get a girl by going the GBF (girls best friend) route but I've seen about 1000 other dudes fail.

You need to change your game plan if you want any chance at all. Trust me. Don't tell her how you feel. Don't ask her what she thinks or wants to do. Don't give her stuff all the time or any of that crap, god dammit! Be a man!
GBF'n will leave you broke and with no ass.

Always remember what women want:

Confidence
Unpredictability
Uncontrollable
Challenge
Dominance

[kong1971]

As long as she knows she can have you anytime she wants, she'll keep you on ice til she's tired of looking and decides to "settle". Convince her she's waited too long and can't have you anymore. Be the alpha male, not the beta male that's gonna wait around for her.

[sikdogg]

Bigeasy, you're a pimp... :cool:

[penguinsfan]

If anything works here, it will be the wisdom of bigeasy, but you have a challenging task in this one.

[the_squid]

Well, here's a wild card: I dated several former best-friend girls. My current girlfriend was one of the closest friends I ever had.

First of all: Don't think that there is a barrier between friendship and love. That's childish. Good friends have a lot more chances of getting a successful relationship than strangers.

Second: you can be a sensitive guy, a hard guy, a naive guy, whatever. It doesn't matter what people expect from you, specially girls. Just protect their eggs like it was your child, and this is all you need to do.

[REDZULU2003]

I agree with you squid on everything you said, the other guy that posted was more in relation to the player I think than the guy actually wanting the women for love or relationship .. big difference.

[samzman]

i was in the friend zone, big time. but now i'm marrying her. if it's meant to be then it's meant to be. i mean honestly it sounds corney but it's true. let it happen. the moment it's right it'll end up the way it's supposed to.

[the1parr]

I kinda agree with bigeasy, because she has obviously already seen your sensitive caring side, and probably other sides to you, so she will know you pretty well. I think the key factor here is that you have been direct before and beeen turned down so perhaps another side to you is subtely needed to make her think/view differently. That is why i feel taking a step back and limiting your eagerness towards her is possibly an effective approach.

I feel for you here. I'm gonna be blunt though and ask whether you think there is a marked difference in physical attrativeness, like in absolute honesty to yourself, is she a 10 and you're a 6 or something, because although it's true that that doesn't ALWAYS matter, most of the time it does. or at least the two have to be close, like a 10 and an 8. In this respect, the level of attractiveness could influence your future 'icing' methods.

By the way, having just typed all of this out I have realised that this thread began in 2005, so this could now be rendered somewhat irrelevant. Given the lack of posts made by "associate" he's probably not knocking around here anymore! I'm still gonna post it.