UK guys - how to txt a girl?

[Rude_God]

OK this is mainly for guys in the UK cos there's massive mobile phone culture over here that I'm not sure is quite as bad anywhere else in the world. People here send 100's of txts to each other on a daily basis and its pretty much the medium everyone uses to set up dates.

Anyway, basically I'm looking for any advice about how to send a girl a quality txt message that's pretty likely to succeed in getting her to go out with you. I know the whole cocky/funny thing is good, but does anyone have to-the-letter rundowns of any txts they have used?

Anyway here's brief background on this current girl situation:
- met while out last week, talked for about 2 hours got on really well, spent another couple of hours kissing and a bit more, got taxi, went to hers, she contemplated asking me in but thought I probs wouldn't call her if she slept with me straight away so she gave me her number and said call her (which is cool, I mean I wanted to get laid but I guess I respect her more for it).
- btw she's 22, pretty, tall, dark, great legs, bout an 8 or 9
- so now anyway, I txt her the next day... this was my first mistake I guess, breaking the 3-day rule which I usually stick to. I thought it would be ok to break it since I didn't just get her number but actually made out with her, but still, I think it was a mistake getting in touch so soon.
- I used cocky/funny tho, and she replied, but with less enthusiasm than I 'd hoped...
I said somethin like:
'maybe we could go out sometime, if you can handle it ;)'
she said:
'hmm now i dont know if i could handle that... only jokin, maybe we could.'
- Anyway now, I havent txt since.. I thought I should leave it at least a couple of days to play it cool. She hasnt been in touch either but then I didnt really expect her to be - i mean hot girls dont tend to do the chasing.
- So I think I'll txt her maybe friday, I think thats leaving it long enough, I just want your advice on a good txting style (for future reference as well).

So - thoughts?

PS I read somewhere that its good to start a message like that with something like hey gorgeous or hey doll (even a girl you just met), now that seems to me to be a bad idea but i read this on doubleyourdating i think and their stuff seems good... your opinion?

[More Meat]

Dude, you are putting entirely too much thought inot this. Just call her when you feel like it- she won't give a shit if you call her too early, in fact, shell probably like it. Dont try to act like someone whos the man, trying to act all cool. Just be yourself and have confidence in yourself, youre the man.

[Rude_God]

In my experience, I have to disagree, girls dont like it if you call too soon, they get scared off. And ones that I waited a while before calling seemed that much more interested as a result. If you call too soon it makes it look like you have nothing else to do with your time and are just waiting for them to fill up your empty life - giving it a few days is likely to make her think you're a busy person with alot going on and are thus more interesting.

You're probably right about putting too much thought into it - I never used to overanalyze things and think this way.
I used to just get in touch whenever I felt like it, but oft times I've never been replied to.
I think alot of women are very hard to get through to these days, and what you say and how you say it can be very important.
Believe me, I don't like overanalysing things in this way but the dating game seems to evolve more and more complexly all the time.

[EVO]

hey rude god i live in swansea so not far from you.
i find that it doesnt matter what you say in a text, its all about the body language/connection when you meet them, if you can read people and quickly understand their character then you will be succesfull.

ok, for a start i dont believe in the 3 day rule - its way too long!! if you text someone after 3 days whos to say they will even remember you?
24 hrs is long enough, but dont arrange a meet with the first text you will seem "needy". all the texts on day 1 should be LIGHT Q&A.
e.g. the night after you pull a girl
" hey sexy, its ..... from last night. had a great time :) been upto much today? x"

thats just an example but it all depends how well you connected the night before. some girls you can afford to be more flirty. the first text is just to let her know your still there, you can judge from their responses whether they actually want to chat to you, and how "friendly" you can be. keep in mind there is no need to rush things - if she feels "bothered" or rushed by you then you will get no where. i advise no more than 5 texts/ day, most situations only 2/3.

girls like a guy who knows wat he is doing, even if you dont know what you are saying make it seem like you do, but dont bull shit.
some of the best first dates ive had is just taking her out for a meal, doesnt have to be expensive. get her a few drinks to relax her and convo normally flows.

i personally like alot of teasing, e.g being really flirty and with kissing etc, makes them want you more ;). i used to go with loads of different girls all within the same time period which works SO well! at one point last year i was seeing 5 girls. it works well because i find that girls find it "amusing" to stand you up, happens all the time. lol. id simply arrange to meet 2 girls for a night out and almost always one of them would stand me up so i just went out with the other one. also, if you come off as a busy guy - someone who has little free time then they will try harder to get a date with you rather than you do all the chasing.
not sure how relevant this is to your question, but it may help you :P

[Rude_God]

Sounds like you got your game sorted mate. I'm still trying to get back on track...
As for dating more than one girl at a time, don't know how you do that! I was dating 2 round about this time last year, it was a major headache more than anything!
Anyway, yeah the body language or connection between us was pretty good that night. She seemed pretty into me, which I guess is why I was slightly disappointed she wasn't a bit more enthusiastic with the txt...
Ah well. To be honest I think I am overanalysing it - guess I just need to get back into the swing of things a bit more - my game used to be much better than this before my last relationship, but then I spose I'm just outta practice.
Thanks for the advice, its pretty sound.

[EVO]

practice makes perfect ;). she may need a bit more encouragement from you, girls are always hesitant to do any chasing/effort whatsoever unless they are fugly lol. stay in touch with her and im sure it will go good! rofl

[Rude_God]

Well anyway I decided to txt her last friday and kept it casual enough and arranged a date for last night, which went really well actually. So that was good, thanks for the advice guys...

Learned a couple of things I could mention:
- she would NEVER have txtd me or called me unless I had got in touch first, no matter how much she had liked me or had a good time. Just a girl thing. And they always complain about male ego?!
- you can play way out of your league if you can convince yourself that you're not actually out of your league, if you get what I mean. I know everyone has probably heard this millions of times but it's true, confidence always prevails.
- work out more and girls will notice :)
- and to attempt to answer my own question: when txting a girl be confident, cheeky, playful - if you overdo it, you can always say, hey just kidding, or even better ask where her sense of humour is. Its a lot harder to apologise for being boring...