am i loser?

[zz284]

Why do girls give me their number?and when i make the call they seem disinterested as if their telling me to get lost in a friendly way.

[Threak-X]

Why do girls give me their number?and when i make the call they seem disinterested as if their telling me to get lost in a friendly way.
Is it a continual thing or a isolated occurrence ? ? ?

[zz284]

Yes,alot.and when i see them again they wanna talk and flirt, but if i try to call again their either out or no one answers.I just dont understand.

[sawyer]

there either dirty slags,,or youren paranoid down the fone and dont know what to say,,might just be in youre head,i think ,,are you a chatty person,,you might be more confident than them and overpowering dunno on the fone i mean,hahahyou mad man:O

[zz284]

ha no i`m not paranoid on the phone nor chatty, if anything i`m more confident.here is an e.g i called chit chat for a minute and then i ask if she wanted hangout sometime click! a few weeks later she told a friend of mine that i ask her out and she hung-up on me,made it twice as embarrassing.here is another, i called we talked for few minutes ,she mostly about what she did that day then said she had to go.So called her 4 or 5 more times over a two week period she never answered again.and another e.g this one is a doozie she called first, played phone tag for two weeks made plans to go out ,then she stopped calling,i called afew more times no answer.a couple a weeks later i was playing golf with one of my best friend whom she also knew was a good of friend of mine .He tells me that he slept with her the previous week even though he is living with his girlfriend and baby and his girlfriend and her work at the same place and supposedly good friends which dos`nt say much about her,but she still pick him over me.So my question is have you guys ever experienced any of this?if so and if not i`d still appreciate your opinion.

[oxygenrice]

yes, this has happened....just not the whole disinterested part...but close enough.

I would just take note of her psychology and try to stay away from girls like that. They are just bimbos who are all dizzy and light headed fuck shit heck fuck motherfuckers who think they are goddesses of marble in the clouds.

its really that simple, as I see it.

It'll mess with ya, but it taught me well.

My story was similar...through the ol' grapevine I heard this girl I was trying to get with was fuckin' around...while she was still calling me...we would hang out and stuff, but it was just weird...like she was just shoppin' for boys and fuckin' around.

You're not a loser, you just got tangled with an incompatible program.

Seriously, these girls seriously think they are the highest, and that they are just shoppin and fuckin'. Just lookin for boys and fuckin'.


But, you could always do some james bond shit and just...ya know....almost rape her but not really....like make her want it.


you're not a loser. trust me.

[busyrand]

Bro, you're not a loser at all!

It sounds like you are dealing with some young girls.... teens to early twenties at the oldest. Chicks at that age do not have profound motives. They simply gravitate to the guys who appear to be most interesting. That's why most of them end up with the stereotypical cool guys at that age.

All you need is to be educated about what is going on here and everything will change quickly. There are some little, yet dynamite, changes you can make in your interactions that would turn this thing on it's ear! Just shoot me a PM with your email in it and I'll get the information out to you.

Essentially, all you will need to do is show them a bit more of the side of you that they find attractive, and work to develop that side of your personality so that it becomes more and more natural. I'm a chubby, nerdy, athlete with glasses but chicks love me because of the way I make them feel.... like I said PM me with your email address and I'll send you some things that will straighten everything out.

You're much better than me because I still hesitate a bit to approach chicks and get them on the phone. It sounds like you are past that part (which is the hardest part by far). YOu just need an education on what attraction truly is!

[Long Duck Dong]

Its because you didn't leave an impression of your the COOL GUY they want to hang out with! If they were interested in you they would act excited that you called them back! No, you are not a loser. You just need to step your game up with women...

[BoredLoser]

u gotta have game ;)

[sikdogg]

You can't sound too eager or too available.... you have to let them know that you have other options and you can take them or leave them. They will want you if they think other women want you... you need to create value in yourself.

[Ninja77]

SikDogg is right and that is why they say that women want which they feel they cannot have...which is why some women like to try to get with guys who already have girls. With you being single, you are somewhat vulnerable and they most likely look at it as, you're single for a reason and that reason might not be good, you said that your buddy had sex with this girl and he also has a g/f, that probably has a lot to do with it, he is already with a girl, so they look at it as, if she sees something in him, then he can't have too much wrong with him, lol. First of all, you should probably wait around like a week or so before even make the first call to these girls, it will make you seem less eager, or make them call you. If they are attractive girls, don't tell them that they're attractive, because attractive girls hear that kind of crap all day long, which is why many of them will allow you to buy them drinks and what not. You need to make it look like you are above them and that your standards are most likely higher than what they have to offer. This will make them feel like they have something to strive towards as you are not acting like a typical man would act.

Practice makes perfect and once you figure out that attractive women in a sense really do like to be treated like crap, it's because there are so many guys out there who will treat them good, they want something different and out of the ordinary. The guys who do too much are usually the ones who get burned, so kick back and play it cool, make them buy you drinks instead of the other way around etc... Once you figure out that most attractive women are out to try to control men and that you can indeed control them, you will be in MUCH better shape.

Also, things like, if you do call them or they call you, do the same thing to them that they do to you. Say a couple of words and then say that you have something you have to do and that you have to go. It will work dude, trust me. Take care and let us know how things go :)