ahhh help

[abcd3]

i am a virgin and i tried to sleep over 4 times with my girlfriend but its really hard for me, before i can get in i get flaccid. other things like oral or handjob are no problems, i can stay as long as i want HARD. but when it comes to sex its fucked up.. do you have any solutions for my problem?.. i just want to fuck her now and dont want to get handjob or oral for the rest of my life.. i know its just MENTAL.. but i dont know how to get over it.

[Tmember]

You want to fuck her now because you want to overcome being fucked up? that's your problem, and now you say make some sense man, well as long as you wanna fuck her beacuse you wanna overcome being fucked up, being fucked up in sex will just keep showing up and your mind won't allow you too have sex because 'it feels bad to him' , because you wanna do some action where you convinced your mind that you don't have much power. You wanna do it because you wanna prove it to yourself that your not fucked up in sex, that is pushing your limits, and more you push it more it will be 'fucked up' . You must find a way that in your mind you already are satisfy with the results in that area so later sex will come naturaly and you won't have to 'push it'