Having a hard time

[WantsMore9]

So me and my X gf were hanging out alot latley having a good time and what not just talking doing w.e. then I started getting more feelings for her again and it seemd like she was getting more for me to but she doent want to go out with me becasue she wants to be single and have fun and plus she is moving about an hour away. So anyways I started wanting to hang out with her alot more so I would keep calling her and calling, so i guess I was nagging on her and wasnt giving her much space, and I have a tendency to ask alot of personal questions like.. are you meating other guys and other stuff like that so that kindof pissed her off and was pushing her further away from me and now she doesnt really want to talk to me, So I msged her on myspcae and told her that I would give her all of her space that she wants. Its been 3 days I believe? And it is so hard not to call her and just talk to her, I dont even care about her personal life I just want to hang out with her as just friends. Sorry that im talking on and on but I just wanted to know what I should do? I know I should probably give her the space she needs but its so hard and I just hope that she will want to hang out again.

[Girthius]

First off, sorry your going through this..really sucks!When the balance is tipped in a relationship to where you are chasing the girl......that's not good!!Women don't like men that seem needy/or who chase them!It's like the challenge to keep them has ended,so they decide to look for another challenge!

If she wants her space, I would say no worries....go for it, enjoy yourself!Then I would start rebuilding my life, as soon as I put the phone down.She would be gradually erased from my mind!If you were meant to be together, wouldn't it be logical that she would still be with you?She would not be able to split from you!!So therefore, the bond is only onesided..which means it wouldn't have lasted anyway.

I wouldn't call her...text her..or have anymore to do with her..........if you do it will only hurt you more!I would rebuild..and move on and find someone that will stick around!There may be a time that she see's sense, and comes running back.......I wouldn't give her the time of day!!She's done it once already, and if you take her back.......that would be a sign of weakness......by which she may do it again!!If she does come back..just say...no thanks, I'm enjoying many new life experiences.....good bye.......door shuts......end of story!Life's cruel and unfair sometimes, but you have to look after you first and foremost!!Good luck bruv!!

[WantsMore9]

Yeah, it seems like she is doing that to me right now, trying to shut the door. We have been together for 2 years and now she just wants to be her self and make more friends, I cant be mad at that though I mean we are both only 19, were young. Its just alot harder for me to shut the door becasue this was my first gf and she has had 3 long relationships and a few other short ones. We both decided to break up to becasue like I said she is moving about an hour away but she will be going to my school then after that 1st year she is moving out of state to go to school with her best friend for the remaining 3 years. I know for a fact that she wont come running back to me asking for me back, and plus if she did I really dont thinhk that I woud take her back just becasue of everything that Ive gone through but I would be willing to work on a friendship, but I also know that I cant be as jelouse as ive been and just be cool with her and treat her as a friend. But what yer saying is that I should just say screw her all together? Thats kind of hard for me to do so. So do you think that it would be bad if later down the road we became friends?

[Girthius]

Yes being friends down the line may be possible!I would keep that option open!By then you will be able to handle the possibilty that she may have someone in her life..as you will probably have already been with a few others, and perhaps have someone as well, if you do run into each other in the future!My ex wanted to be friends after the split, but I declined because I didn't want to hear about her life with a new man......best way for me!

[WantsMore9]

Wow thats great. Yeah I dont know how I would be able to handle that either, seeing her with someone else. I just need to try and get out right now because ive just been sitting at home becasue I dont really feel like socializing to much right now but I know I should probably get out. So yeah im going to just give her the space she wants and maybe ill see her at school sometime and say hi and talk to her here and there then maybe we will see what happens. Well I guess ill just see what happens and try to keep my mind off of her. Well thanks alot for all the advice