sexual attention addiction

[wingnuts]

So i had been seeing this girl for a long time and we were friends way before we ever were messign around. She wanted a relationship with me from the start but i was a little skeptical on weather i was attracted to her and that we would get along. Before this girl i hadnt had much in the terms of sexual needs. Eventually she became almost a sex slave and she was always down to do whatever even when she was not in the mood. Then one day she disrespected me in the worst way possible and i knew i would never forgive her. But she insisted on trying to make it up to me giving me constant attention letting me do whatever i wanted. Sometimes i would sit there after getting head and just want her to go home i had no respect for this woman and i never felt the need to please her. i made a promise to her that we would just be friends because i knew my feelings would never change, but she was more then a little flirty with me and i couldnt help myself. after months and months of this she finally got the hint that i wasnt going to come around and decided it would be best to try and move on.

For a couple days i felt like crap. i was so used to getting attention from her that she had become the symbolism anything sexual for me. i knew that i could now have a great relationship with a girl that i could now love and respect and this is what i wanted. but had a hard time letting go of the attention i was getting everyday for months and months.

Maybe because she was the first girl i had that kind of attention from it was hard for me to let go. but i would like some advice on what to do in these cases when i just cant stop myself even when its for the best....

[Wang Chung]

It all passes with time. Of course you can fill that attention deficit with another girl, but that is easier said than done, especially seeing the magnitude of attention this one afforded you. I have found that no matter how hard you try to separate emotions from sex they are just too intertwined. Be it love, need of attention, whatever. Stick it out and take comfort in the fact that it all eventually passes.