nervous, gonna see a doctor for...

[want2getbig]

for premature ejaculation. also i have anxiety disorder the social kind and im soon to be reffered to someone for that. i also get depressed from time to time and i heard that doctors often use anti-depressants to treat premature ejac as well i know i posted that ima virgin in other post which i kind of true. i'll explain i had sex with one women but i kept cuming way to fast and didnt even consider it having sex it was so fast. i tried it about 10 times with her and i would last between like 10 secs to 2 mins at most. well the thing is im kind of alright to talk to a doctor about anxirty i've been to a shrink for that b4, but to talk to a doctor about premature ejac? im so nervous. i have to call and book the appointment or asked to be refferede to a sexologist and when they ask what is the problem im gonna have a really hard time as i already have social anxiety. so just asking for advise,if any one esle had the same problem how should i go about this?

[Threak-X]

want2getbig--What is going through your mind (thoughts) when get the depression, anxiety attacks and when the pre-mature ejaculation occurs ?

[BazookaJoe]

Hi you shouldn't be afaid to talk to your doctors about anything.

In my opinion you should be real with him or her so you can resolve your problems.

Your sexologist/urologist ect has heard it all before and they aren't going to judge you they want to help. My hat goes off to you for being brave enough to go seek professional help.


good luck

[want2getbig]

thanks im gonna give it a go. my thoughts are all over he places from thinking about work my future things that happened in my past. i think of how i want things to be. mostly negative thoughts come up like i suck at this life sucks things wont get better and on and on it goes. i cant even sleep at night. takes me like hours to fall asleep cause my mind keeps running. i've thought of taking up meditaion classes, meditaion is when you slow your thought process down and become more enlighten. sounds like just what i need.

[Threak-X]

want2getbig--Change your thoughts change your life. It's sound like you are stressing yourself out with things that didn't already happen. Stress is usally two things--fear of loss and/or fear of hurt. You are trying to experience things that are not in the present moment which is the time you are truly living and feeling alive.

You are thinking to yourself "I suck at this, life sucks, things wont get better." You are probably saying that to yourself 100's of times thoughout the day ... correct? If you are, that what is know as a NEGATIVE affirmation(s) and you are manifesting those experiences for yourself.

What you want to do is change your thinking throughout the day with a POSITIVE affirmation(s) like, "I love & accept myself and everything I do. Everything is well, my life is wonderful and I feel safe"

You are the only one who can control your thoughts, thinking . . .

To help ease/quiet your mind simply stop a few moments at different periods of the day and try not to do any thought processing. Simply sit and relax, close your eyes and take some deep-breaths. To stop the thinking concentrate and focus on your breathing for the few minutes and that should help quiet the mind. Also, do this when you are going to sleep.

Mediation classes would be great for you to take to learn and practice it.

[Golf]

Redo-

"I don't know anything about patent and copywrited infringement, but I got these out of a book.

Do them all 2 times, you shouldn't feel drained afterwards, you should feel refreshed, they give you easier control over your mind through training, just focus on the exercises, it's only a game

This is a pre-exercise, draw shapes in your mind: close your eyes, and imagine that you pick up a pencil and draw. You do this because you drawings will look like crap; that doesn't matter. I guess you can draw whatever the hell you want (a penis :0), but here's a simple list: a straight line, a squiggly line, a a jagged line, the infinite sign, a spiral, and a ladder. These are the ones that I use, and you don't need to spend an extreme ammount of time drawing.

1. Put three objects in front of you and take one away at a time. Focus on the objects, but also notice the surface they're sitting on.
2. Do the same thing in your head, three objects, take one away at a time. Imagine what the enviroment looked like that they were in, so they're not sitting in blank space.
3. Write the number one through three in your head, then take the numbers away one at a time. You can change the order you take the numbers away in.
4. Image the letters a through g, again, take them away one at a time. You can switch the order you take them away in.
5. Next, do three words, try to imagine every letter, it is easy to lose the picture of the exact word. Then, take the words away one at a time in any order.
6. Do pictures next, I do simple shapes, take the picture away pieces at a time.
7. Next, draw a goal post in you head, in between the goal posts imagine the number 1. Then make the number 1 smaller until it is gone.
8. Sounds, this is the tough one for me. Imagine a sound, and let it fade off into the distance until it is gone and you can not hear it anymore.
9. Imagine the words, calm, energy, control in decending order (up and down). Make the words disappear, then, imagine the words one at a time, for each word writing a squiggly line under it, then making the word and the line disappear. At the end imagine all the words again in decending order, make them disappear. Also, each time you write one of the words, say it in your head and understand it.
10. Simply close you eyes, and imagine three number 1s in your head. Just close your eyes, say and write 111. The more you can concentrate on the words and focus out the world, the better you can do it. If you can be in a loud meeting, and total focus on 111 you have amazing control.

-Just to clarify, you do these in your head (except for number one), not on a piece of paper.
-Remember, each time you get rid of something it's gone, it no longer exists.
-Finally, when you image something imagine as much detail as you can. It is easy to imagine a sentence, but if you actually think about it your brain only sees words not individual letters. Don't burn yourself out, but just try your best."

[REDZULU2003]

want2getbig--Change your thoughts change your life. It's sound like you are stressing yourself out with things that didn't already happen. Stress is usally two things--fear of loss and/or fear of hurt. You are trying to experience things that are not in the present moment which is the time you are truly living and feeling alive.

You are thinking to yourself "I suck at this, life sucks, things wont get better." You are probably saying that to yourself 100's of times thoughout the day ... correct? If you are, that what is know as a NEGATIVE affirmation(s) and you are manifesting those experiences for yourself.

What you want to do is change your thinking throughout the day with a POSITIVE affirmation(s) like, "I love & accept myself and everything I do. Everything is well, my life is wonderful and I feel safe"

You are the only one who can control your thoughts, thinking . . .

To help ease/quiet your mind simply stop a few moments at different periods of the day and try not to do any thought processing. Simply sit and relax, close your eyes and take some deep-breaths. To stop the thinking concentrate and focus on your breathing for the few minutes and that should help quiet the mind. Also, do this when you are going to sleep.

Mediation classes would be great for you to take to learn and practice it.

Thats fantastic advice ... also visualisation works very well and deep breathing exercises.