New member has serious confidence issues

[Perdip]

Hi everyone,

My wife and I have been together for 12 years. I only had one sexual partner before her. She had OVER 40...(please note that she's always been a great girl. I don't know why she was so nuts in HS and college, but I've never met a chick that made any damn sense anyway) She's quite ashamed of her past, and it really only bothers me because of my penis size....if I was bigger, I wouldn't be so intimidated...if I wasn't so intimidated, I wouldn't care what happened with her before we got together.

I have a REAL confidence problem that isn't going to go away with any kind of therapy. The bottom line is, I need to make peace with my penis or go nuts. While I am about 7" nbpel, my girth is only 4.75", pretty much evenly along my base thru shaft. I am incredibly intimidated, as I have been for the past 12 years about this. I don't need to be the biggest my wife has had, but I know that as far as her experiences go, my skinny unit is probably rather unimpressive. She swears that I'm fine. She acknowledged that I'm not thick, but she says it's not that big a deal...and we all know women who love us are kind enough to lie to us about that. But it always nags be, always at the back of my mind that my unit is skinny. (and girth is more important to women, typically)

I've been doing simple manual stretching for about 10 months now, along with jelqs and recently started some clamping.

While it sounds silly, I honestly would be perfectly thrilled and content with a nice 5.5" EG penis. Nothing crazy, but just honest-to-goodness "decent" thickness would be great. Something my wife could be happy with.

If anyone can help me with a routine or technique that'll be effective I'd be so appreciative. So far, i've only been able to commit about 1.5 hours per day 4 or 5 days a week...and it seems I'm going to have to consider something like all-day hanging or all-day clamping.

Please note that I'm not a beginner at PE, but my routine hasn't changed much since doing some simple stretches, jelqing, etc. starting 10 months ago. Again, any help would be so very appreicated.

Thanks guys. I'm looking forward to being a member here.

[MAXAMEYES]

Welcome aboard, first off, and congrats on setting yourself toward a goal. And one quick suggestion, one you've probably given yourself many times in the past; if your wife tells you she's happy with the size of your cock, then take her at her word. Sometimes a change in life is jusy a decision away.

Having said that: use the search function to its fullest. There are countless girth routines and techniques on MOS, find out what fits your style best, "try a few on for size" and see what gives ya the best results. Then take that and run with it!

[twins172_up]

welcome to the board...so what kind of gains have you seen in the past 10 months...it might be a good idea to try to change things up a bit if you been doing the same thing for that long...have you tried clamping or Slow Squash Jelqs...i get good expansion from those two...like Maxameyes said do a search there are a lot of girth routines on here..good luck to you

[Perdip]

@ Max - I hear you on taking her at her word, honestly I do. But it's still daunting given her experience. That said, I believe there is genuine benefits to PE outside of enlargement...benefits that justify the excersises anyway. But let's be honest, a 1/2 inch here or there couldn't!

@ Twins - I've seen 1/4" (maybe) gain in girth, which is what I'm really focused on, and about 1/2 inch (maybe a tick more) in length. I've been doing some stretches, jelqing with my homemade jelq device, and squeezes. I just started some simple clamping recently and really feel the stretch, and have since incorporated it into my routine. I love your avatar, too....No woman no cry has been one of my favorite songs since I was in high school!

Thanks so much for your welcoming posts, I plan on doing alot of RTFF'ing...like alot of newbs, I did fire off a few questions but since have calmed down and am reading some of the info already provided.

Thanks again gents, and I look forward to contributing when I'm well versed in the arts of clamping!

[crd11]

I understand what you're saying about her past taunting you. You can read one of my posts where something similar has happened to me. My advice would be to let her in on it. I told my girlfriend, and she's supporting me 100% because it's what I want. It'll definitely keep you motivated, and she'll be able to tell if you're growing.