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Ok guys, this might be a long one but well worth the read. I'm sharing bc it's a source of pain, curiosity, lack of self confidence and reason I took up PE. I welcome comments and really want input from those that have this experience and can describe what it was like going from one size to significantly bigger.

I've been with my fiancé for about 4 years. I love her more than anyone I've ever met in my life. The issue that keeps coming up stems from me asking the dreaded "how big was the biggest guy you've been with"? Well, the last two guys were bigger. Me, I'm 7 1/4" x 5 3/4". Her ex husband was 1/4 to 1/2" longer and a little thicker. Her exact words. "Sometimes he seemed bigger - sometimes you do. I would say the difference is .25 to .5" in length and not a noticeable difference in width - maybe. .125" at most." So between 7.5-7.75" and a little thicker than me. No big deal, but basically an 8x6. The BF before him though was 9" and really thick. I asked how she knew and she had actually measured it. She dated him for ~5 years. I believe her on the size because she knows exactly how big I am. The comments, albeit all prompted by me regarding penis size in general have been varied and mixed when the topic of size comes up. She knows it's a hang up for me, so I guess I understand. However, it makes me think she's not being exactly honest to protect my feelings.

I have never wanted to please a woman in bed more than her. Didn't really think of myself as a pleaser before dating her. This probably stems from me thinking she wants more, can handle more, needs more for an elusive vaginal orgasm, or to be filled up more. She's said I'm the best lover she's ever had, even before I ever brought up size. I believe her...but somehow think it's not entirely true. She's a joker and so am I, but she's made enough comments about dicks and size (before it was a real issue for me) to know she likes them on the bigger side.

One of the things that puzzles me is this. She says no one has ever penetrated her as deep as me. In my mind, I'm thinking WTF are you talking about? I'm no where near as long as several guys she's been with. I waited a long time to ask her if mr. 9" had actually fully penetrated her until recently and she said yes. He put his whole shaft into her and she took it.. I should add, she's not very tight(but not loose either) and when her vagina tents, it expands quite a bit. I've never been with someone where it's so noticeable. She still maintained that no one has ever fucked her as deep as me. I called BS and said it just doesn't make sense! She stuck by it and wouldn't budge; said she couldn't explain it. Only thing I can think of is when our pelvises touch, I give one extra thrust- in and up. It really stimulates her clit and penetrates her a little further is the only thing I can think of. She says no one else has ever done that to her. She can only orgasm clitorally at least with me, so I guess it sets me apart.

Recently, I asked her to clarify her "acceptable range" comments as she's stated several times when I've brought size up. "Size doesn't matter much if you're in the acceptable range- and you're above the minimum acceptable size." I grabbed a ruler and said show me. She said anywhere from 5.5-8.5 inches is acceptable...maybe even 5 inches. So I didn't get to ask many more questions, but obviously thought to myself mr. 9" was outside of her acceptable limits but she stayed with him for 5 years! I did later ask how she came up with this range but she refused to answer. I've brought this shit up too much...I know this.

At the end of the day, I want an 8x6 or better and have now dedicated myself to getting there. Not sure it'll make a difference in our sex life, but I'm doing it. I'd love some thoughts on all of this and what, if any difference 1-1.5" has made in your sex life with the same woman. I'd also like to add that we're late 30s, she's had 26 partners and I've had 35.

I literally torture myself with this stuff daily and want to get over it. Only way I know how is to grow a bigger one...

Thoughts?
 
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welcome to the forum mate.


firs tof i will like to split this up in 2 things.

1.

penis enlargement.

2.

your unhealthy insecurity about your size.

and just to confuse everything im gonna start with the ladder.

your penis is big. it is bigger than mine and heck. i am being told that i am big.

it is in your head mate. it is what your standing next to.

you can say arnold is huge. now place him next to shaq. and he looks like a midget.

you need to let go under all circumstances. there will be guys who is: bigger. richer. stronger. more romantic. better at kids. better chefs. better constructors. etc (just find something to be jealoux about)

and you need to learn to let that shit go. this is actually a personal trait that girls find extremely attractive. if she can see that you feel confident about yourself. she doesn't even see the other guy as having an advantage.

example: when we where kids there was a guy who had a thing with the girls. now the guy goes down and shoots of 30 push ups. and all the girls go daaaaiiim. and instantly a beta male (beta because he is challenging the alpha) is going down to show off 50 push ups. the girls ignore him heck they might walk away before he is done.

you see. alpha is the ability to do what you feel like and be uneffected by outside stimulus. this shows strenght. and is extremely attractive for girls.

so you will see a guy do something and girls think he is romantic and hot. and 2 secs a guy do the exactly same thing and they don't give a fuck.

first kid who got a piercing/tattoo/smart pants. was somehow the guy the girls admired. it wasn't the actual thing it was the action that made them attracted to him. makes sense?

if i where you i would start doing some self improvement. look up books on how to get rid of jealouxi. maybe even talk with a shrink. whatever it takes. get that shit out of your system. it is not healthy. and this alone can kill a good relationship.

also. mate your big. and you do not need penis enlargement to satisfy her. she has been with you for years. there should be more to it than just your penis.

you want to give her more satisfaction. check out the book: sex god method. find the video: 2 girls teach sex.
white tiger tantra. squirt orgasms. how to become a king in eating pussy. all these things. make sex a squirt party. it is good fun.

and ask yourself this: was the tightest pussy you had also the best sex?

didn't work like that for me.

so why should the biggest cock be the best?

now i am not saying that size doesn't work to your favor. im just saying that it is not all of it. and biggest isn't necessarily the best.

so just make yourself a champion of pussy. and she will have more than she can handle.


1. the penis enlargement.

i fucking love penis enlargement, and it has been an amazing travel. but mate do this for yourself. not for someone else. that is just so unhealthy (feeding the bad behavior that can ruin the relationship we talked about in the first chapter)
so do it in this pattern. start out by getting your head straight. and if you still feel like it. we would love to have you here. and 2 inches is possible (though hard for most people) then you have surpased mr 9 inches.

also a bathmate with some SSJ could easily get you to +6 inches girth which the girls fucking love. (redzulu who had 7 inches girth and 8 lenght could only get 4 inches in on most chicks as they where being stretched so much)

so there is endless of possibilities. just don't do it for the wrong reasons mate thrust me. that you will regret. and it will not work!
 
The easy way to stop thinking about this is to ask yourself if your girlfriend thinks about all the vaginas you've been inside. How did they make you feel? Were they were tight, loose, beefy, pretty, smelly, etc.,?

The answer is most likely she doesn't give a damn and doesn't feel insecure about your exes vaginas. Just as you shouldn't concern yourself with the dicks of her exes or compare them to your own, she isn't with you because of your penis. It's a factor but not the main factor.
 
TreasureHunter;641396 said:
The easy way to stop thinking about this is to ask yourself if your girlfriend thinks about all the vaginas you've been inside. How did they make you feel? Were they were tight, loose, beefy, pretty, smelly, etc.,?

So fucking true!
 
Maybe you are better in the sack than the ex-bfs. Or penetrating differently than them.
 
I feel bad that you are anguishing over this. My advice is to quit talking about cock size with your girl. You are only showing her your insecurities which is a much bigger turn-off than your "little" dick. You are good size and with confidence, you have nothing to worry about.
My ex of 5 years dated a guy who was 9.5 x 7 ... pretty damn huge and alot bigger than me but she was obsessed and in love with me and loved our sex. Like you, I didn't feel secure because of her ex. In retrospect, I was worried over nothing.

Stay confident and secure and while you're at it, work on gaining some size.
 
Like everyone here said, stop worrying/thinking about it first. Worrying and thinking negative thoughts is one of the worlds most addictive drugs. And it can cause constant suffering. If you need something to read I suggest Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now, or check some of his videos on Youtube.
 
Tearitup;641496 said:
I feel bad that you are anguishing over this. My advice is to quit talking about cock size with your girl. You are only showing her your insecurities which is a much bigger turn-off than your "little" dick. You are good size and with confidence, you have nothing to worry about.
My ex of 5 years dated a guy who was 9.5 x 7 ... pretty damn huge and alot bigger than me but she was obsessed and in love with me and loved our sex. Like you, I didn't feel secure because of her ex. In retrospect, I was worried over nothing.

Stay confident and secure and while you're at it, work on gaining some size.

Indeed! The only thing you get digging up the past is dirty. She is with you now, that is all that matters.
 
I went through a short phase in my younger life when I obsessed over this sort of stuff. Then, I realized most women are horrible guestimaters of penis size. They usually get the 'balls-eye' view. Imagine if you could see your own penis from 5 inches away? I have shared the story of my ex from years ago who swore she'd been with a guy once before me, who had a penis "as long as her forearm and as thick as her wrist". This was a girl who was around 5' 8" tall and 110lbs. I actually measured her wrists once and they were barely 5" around. Her forearms I didn't bother because I knew she was nuts on that estimation. There was just no way. When we started having sex, she swore I was bigger than this "giant" and I had to have "at least 9 inches!!". I finally measured myself in front of her to show her I was 6.5" or so non bone pressed and 6" in shaft girth. Women are funny. They will swear you're the biggest and best dick they've ever had until you piss them off and then they go and tell everyone they know how small you are/were, or how bad you were in bed. Unless you were there to measure "Mr. 9 inches" in person with your own ruler, her word is as good as cold butter on a hot sidewalk.
 
stillwantmore2;642034 said:
most women are horrible guestimaters of penis size

This is the truth and another thing is when they love you your cock is 2" longer than normal but once they hate you your cock is 2 inches smaller:)
 
Dude anything longer than 6 or bigger around than 5 is big. I'm between 6-7.25 long and 5-5.75 around and no woman I've been inside that still likes me has ever called me small. Of course even OG mudbone would be called small by a bitch that hates him. It doesn't matter how big you are if she hates you you're small and it doesn't matter how small you are if she loves you you're big. Keep that in mind. I have an ex that said "I had a 9 inch bf before you but you fuck better than him" for women size is almost inconsequential if she loves the guy. But take two guys one huge she hates and one tiny she loves she will cum harder with the small guy she loves and if she hates both whoever is more skilled will make her cum harder irrespective of size and if she loves both the one with more skill is gonna do it for her but if they are equal skills and she loves them equally only then will bigger be better. That's why �naked people movies� actresses cum harder from the huge guys cause they have no feelings for them emotionally. Hell, look at katie morgan she married a non �naked people movies� guy and he's only like 6 inches according to the "having sex with katie morgan" podcast.

TLDR: size doesn't matter if she loves you. So just keep her happy and in love and you will always be the "biggest" she's ever had.
 
It never ceases to amaze me how often the story of a women having multiple partners in a row with statistical anomaly sized dicks comes up i mean hell I've even been thrown this curve ball in the past but i can't help but think something's off with these claims not saying it isn't possible but if i based the average on what women say I'd come to the conclusion that half the male population are dld sized, i think 1. Girls don't know size for shit they literally have no idea how big a 6,7,8 inch penis really is they go by what guys tell them which is a lie most of the time, 2. Even if the girl measures them are they measuring correctly? Everyone has a habit of rounding up even if they're generally an honest person and 3. Just like the fisherman that catches the big fish that miraculously grows every time they tell the story so do girls with dick size, makes for a better story and when they tell it enough times it becomes real to themselves, i guess the other explainations are that the size studies are just plain wrong or some girls have a 6th sense to detect guys with large dicks in some kind of other worldly psychic way but my thinking is that the Occams razor theory rings true in these cases that the simplist explaination is the correct one, they're lying whether they know it or not.
 
Women have a formula they use when estimating the size of a dick, it is called mortification!
 
doublelongdaddy;722963 said:
Women have a formula they use when estimating the size of a dick, it is called mortification!

They're mortified by an outlier?
 
I thought the formula was:

wishful thinking x bra size +- size of ex x 9000 = your size
 
Actually the real formula is

When in love: Your dick is 2" longer to them
When in hate: Your penis is 2" shorter
 
mmm when a men is in love shes the one,the perfect woman,when the dream is over she is nothing but garbage lol

I think we all have seen beautiful women out there.How perfect and virtuous they could be? lol
 
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LONGERDICK7+;723066 said:
mmm when a men is in love shes the one,the perfect woman,when the dream is over she is nothing but garbage lol

I think we all have seen beautiful women out there.How perfect and virtuous they could be? lol

This is why we can see ourselves in exile, life is transient, all things grow old and die, all things of yesterdays importance fall away into naught, the dreams we were so desperate to realize become nothing but dross. Suffering in this life is unavoidable, it is how we deal with the suffering that matters.
 
doublelongdaddy;723163 said:
This is why we can see ourselves in exile, life is transient, all things grow old and die, all things of yesterdays importance fall away into naught, the dreams we were so desperate to realize become nothing but dross. Suffering in this life is unavoidable, it is how we deal with the suffering that matters.

dealing whit suffering is another burden,How can we get to a better solution,if i ask someone theyd say anything..Is a quite interesting process that needs to be faced...
 
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