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Hey guys! This is another one of my "Kiss the.... GOODBYE!!!" threads. I began these to not only increase my knowledge on the art of pleasing a woman sexually, but to help everyone out there too. There are a lot of couples that break up, because of sex problems. I want to help all of you guys! I am in no way teacher or someone whose knowledge goes far, I am just a man who wants to improve alongside everyone else. This is information I have gathered through reading books, articles and some basic knowledge of mine on female desire and logic (impossible to understand, because there simply is none 
). I know that this is the "Masturbation and Ejaculation" forum, but since the "Sexuality" forum is rarely visited these days (at least from what I see, correct me if I'm wrong) I want as many people as possible to see this and share their experience, their knowledge and advices. Everyone, Don't be afraid or hesitate whether to comment or not- let us all learn from each others mistakes and experience and develop ourselves as one, because we are brothers, we are men. This thread required SOME time and effort, but I am happy to finally give you my almost finished thread (what I will not cover here and will leave empty is the way to stimulate the erogenous zones, the different kind of orgasms a woman can have, and the techniques to give them all types of different orgasms. It requires even more research, but this first part is very important too. And with all of your help (hope you help ) we'll have the thread finished. This is in no way a step by step guide- this is simply a thread where everyone shared his knowledge. Here it is (proud) :
What is female sexual satisfaction?
What should be realized about this is that orgasm is the definition of orgasm, but the definition of female sexual satisfaction lies much deeper- it is giving her not only an enormous sexual orgasmic pleasure a multiple times, but emotionally pleasuring her also.
Women sexual satisfaction triggers:
Mental stimulation.
Mental stimulation is the key to satisfying sex. The more mentally stimulated a woman is- the more pleasured the sexual intercourse will be. Mental stimulation has its two divisions:
Mental predisposal.
Mental predisposal is what will take all of her anti-pleasure shields off- it is what will make her prone to over-arousal- it is the key to satisfying sex. So what are these anti-pleasure shields that women have? They are called- Anxiety, Distance, Threat and Boredom.
Relaxation.
It is when the woman feels calm. You must make her feel completely relaxed and far away from all the problems she has (whether it be problems at work, with friends, family problems or any other problem she might have).
Connection.
It is when the woman feels loved and appreciated. You must make her feel like when she is with you- she is in the company of someone that values her.
Security.
It is when the woman feels completely secure. You must make her feel like when she is with you- she will always be protected and safe.
Excitement.
It is when the woman feels excited about sex. You must provide variety to your relationship and never let things get predictable or boring.
Mental arousal.
The more aroused a woman is- the easier she will be pleasured. Over-arousal is the biggest factor for fast and easy ejaculation/satisfaction. If a woman is over-aroused- orgasm may take place within a few minutes after the start of sexual foreplay or intercourse. Mentally stimulating her should always be your number one goal.
Example: A perfect example of this would be sex toys. Women can always get bigger, harder and never ejaculating multi-functional toys, but the reason why they choose men is that physical only stimulation is not enough for them.
Example: A good example for this is raping. Even though rapists might use some really good sexual techniques- they have still given the most nightmarish night in a woman’s life- it is because psychological stimulation was in a complete lack.
Physical stimulation.
While not the most important aspect of overall sexual stimulation, physical stimulation is vitally important for amazing sex. It is what further enhances the power of mental stimulation. When a girl is over aroused and would orgasm in a time frame of 10-20 minutes after the start of a normal sexual foreplay/intercourse, this time frame could go as low as a minute or two when proper and advanced techniques are being used.
Techniques.
Mental predisposal techniques.
Relaxation.
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. Good ideas are:
-Go on a vacation (far away from all the places that could remind her of her problems) at a nice hotel- somewhere near the Balkans, mountains, ocean or the seacoast.
-Visit the spa to get a nice therapeutic massage or some other treatment.
What you must realize is that if you cannot manage to deal with your relaxation- you will never be able to deal with hers. You must be completely calm, confident, mentally still and with no pressure. Stop worrying about:
-Penis size. While a bigger dick is a plus, it is not what matters the most in bed. If one has mastery over physical and mental stimulation- a woman will be satisfied.
-Man type. Stop thinking what is right or not- or what you should be or not- dominant or emotional. Social media has spammed that women like/don’t emotional guys, and they like/don’t dominant guys. The truth actually lies in between- they like both at once and want both at once.
-Moral. Sex is treated like something that is immoral and wrong, but the only thing that is wrong is this belief. Sex is absolutely normal act of reproduction and an act of pleasure that all people need and crave.
-Player or nerd. People who have had bad experience in bed have hard time relaxing and letting go of what has happened before. It is something really normal- not to be able to satisfy a woman a several times. It could have been her fault for not letting herself go of excess worries and thoughts. Re-write and reprogram your mindset and stop caring if you satisfy her or not- big woof if she is not satisfied, it is not the end of the world, you’re satisfied aren’t you- that’s enough.
-Desire. Some people think that women do not want sex. This is absolutely not true. This is something that brings enormous pleasure to us, people, we enjoy it and we desperately need it.
Pressure.
Never let yourself being pressured. Kill all pressure with humor -no matter what happens- humor can fight it and get you out of the uncomfortable situation. But be careful not to hurt her when you make a joke.
Some females may want you to feel bad and guilty for every mistake of yours. If you find yourself in such a company- simply make a rude humor out of it and go on with sex- then leave her (this is usually not recommended, but if that’s what you must do to be left with no pressure or guilt- do it- don’t let your overall confidence suffer). Go rude only if you don’t care about her (otherwise you can hurt your relationship) - but never let yourself be insulted no matter what anyone tells you
Good humor example:
You take your clothes off and she tells you you’re fat and have a big belly. You tell her that a big fish is only found under a big rock.
You fall on the floor and make a noisy ouch. When she asks you where you hit yourself- just point at your penis and tell her to kiss it, so it cures faster.
Rude humor example:
She tells you your dick is small or laughs at you for not being able to get a good Erection quality- and you simply tell her that the low erection quality is because she’s ugly and does not turn you on.
Connection.
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. Good ideas are:
-Making her feel accepted and appreciated by giving her trust and showing her that you have feelings for her.
-Noting your appeal to her saying something like “I love you, babe” could mean a lot to her.
-Showing your love with actions and no words.
I would advise you to tell her that you love her not that often, because once she hears it 50 times- it could lose its special meaning.
-Post-sex act- After sexual experience women are very vulnerable and easy to connect to. What is really important here is to show your affection to her after the sexual act with a strong dominant-emotional hug and some emotion-possession talking.
Security.
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. Good ideas are:
-Giving her a powerful touch (whether it be a massage or hug), applying a little force could make her feel that she is in the company of a powerful man.
-Improving your looks to give out the look of a strong man every time she looks at you.
-You can even help her with some of her problems. This would make her feel that if she ever falls into trouble- she has her hero to come and save her.
Excitement.
After trying something exciting- it gets boring and this is where variety kicks in. Providing a lot of variety is a must (and not only in, but outside the bed- women are human beings and as such- they do not want to live a boring, unadventurous life). When the girl knows what is coming next every single time- you will get boring to her and eventually she will stop having interest towards you. Not providing variety is how the spark slowly, but surely disappears in a relationship. If there is no spark- the woman will eventually and most likely cheat on you or leave you.
Mental excitement variety.
1-Change (or add) the sex fantasy scenario- where you start fantasizing using clothes and the power of acting as your tool. Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. You can experiment with:
-The naughty student fantasy.
-The policeman and the bad girl fantasy.
-The policewoman and the bad boy.
-The having sex against one’s will fantasy.
-The having sex with a complete stranger fantasy.
-The best friend- into lover fantasy.
-The angry couple having wild sex fantasy.
-The gym coach and the one who does not know how to train sex fantasy.
-The technician coming to fix something sex fantasy.
-The new neighbor sex fantasy.
-The thief in the house sex fantasy.
-The sex while being asleep fantasy.
-The hypnotist and his new victim sex fantasy.
-The “what do I have to do to be hired” sex fantasy
-The secretary sex fantasy
-The secret lover of a married (man, woman) fantasy.
-The problem man going to female urologist sex fantasy.
-The problem woman going to male gynecologist sex fantasy.
-The (guy, girl) who went to the (male, female) sexologist fantasy.
-The tied up/stuck and can’t move sex fantasy.
-The step family sex fantasy.
-The one who tried to physically harm the other one punisHydromaxent sex fantasy.
-The classmate going to the toilet sex fantasy.
-The stuck together in one place with no moving out of there for a long time sex fantasy.
-The biting, scratching, beating sex fantasy.
2- Change the places you are having sex in. Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like.
-In the elevator.
-In the mall dress room.
-In the bushes.
-At home, but having the door or window wide open.
-In the public toilet.
-In the restaurant restroom.
-Playing with each-other under the table in the restaurant.
-In someone else’s house.
-In the local hospital.
-In public parks.
-In a different room.
-In her office.
-In a romantic bathtub (with candles and aroma-liquids inside).
-In front of a roaring fire.
-In her parent’s bedroom.
Physical excitement variety.
1-Sex position and orgasm change.
Change the sex positions you are currently using- go from certain orgasm inducing sex positions to others. Bring her different types of orgasms constantly. Experiment based on what you know she likes.
2-Foreplay change.
Use different type and amount of foreplay techniques every time. One time it is fingering a lot, other time it is licking a lot, other time licking a little, other time do no foreplay at all and another time is a combination of a little licking and a lot of fingering.
3-Sex type change.
Shape shift. Women want it all at once (during sex), so make sure you give her all types of lovers. Once go slow and emotional, other times go fast, wild and dominant.
4-Ejaculation change.
Change the places you ejaculate on her- sometimes on her lower back, sometimes on her face, sometimes in her ass, sometimes make her swallow.
5-Food and drink experiment change.
-Put some sour cream on her and lick it.
-Drink wine or champagne from her belly.
-Add any kind of romantic food (burgers are not) on her erogenous zones and eat it.
Outside of bed.
Outside of bed (sexual).
-Make a trail to the bedroom with rose leafs.
-Romantic dinner.
Outside of bed (non-sexual).
-A sudden trip to another country.
Let your creativity and impulsiveness take over. You are the ones who know what you like.
Mental arousal techniques.
Personality change.
Women need all of the below mentioned at once and this is why it is important to switch from one to another and combine them altogether. There are a few types of lovers a woman can have:
Dominant and rude- the one who takes sex as a primitive act, the beast of sex (dirty talking and manhandling). Sex with him is rude and aggressive. He is master of dirty talking. When you are dominant you must know that sex is a primitive action- when you do it- you do not ask whether you can change the positions or try something new- you just grab her, put her on her knees, stick your dick in her face and say suck my cock, bitch (being hesitant and asking if you can or cannot is a big turn-off). Even if she starts to resist at the start- you need to give her what she does not have the courage to do. Simply put- when you have sex- you don’t make love- you fuck. Dominance is the reason why the media has popularized the “bad boy” sexual archetype.
Dominance - Making love and showing respect is nice- but not what a woman actually needs. Even though the mainstream magazines have implanted that into a man’s mind- women want to be helpless and under a strong man’s control. Dominance itself is the reason why the “bad boy” archetype got so famous amongst our sexual society.
-The dominant lover fucks her furiously. He does not hold himself back. He knows it is really important not to let her hold her orgasm back- even if she resists- he becomes even more furious for her to ejaculate.
-The dominant lover knows that certain sexual positions are much more dominant than others. His best choice are the ones where he is the one who has action in his hands.
Dominance (violence)-Violent sex works best once you have the girl feeling very close to you and very aroused- it is what even further increases arousal. Apply a considerable mount of force only when you are sure she likes it. You can do:
-Hitting her on the door. Grab her with her back against the door, slam her to it and start getting a little aggressive. While this will not cause pain- it will sure turn her on (especially when the noise occurs, because this will further excite her).
-Ripping her clothes apart. Be careful not to rip a cloth she really likes. When you do it with her panties- while applying strength- pull to the side so the pressure falls on the hip and does not hurt her (it is not such a sensitive zone).
-Pulling her hair. Make sure you grab her close to the roots and pull lightly- if she likes it a lot- you can apply a little more intensity.
-Spanking. The ass cheeks are a part of the body where women can take considerable amount of pain and, therefore, a certain amount of force can be applied.
-Grabbing her neck lightly. Make sure not to overdo it with the intensity- a light grip will do the job.
-Throwing her at the bed. Grab her and throw her on the bed with her back. Make sure you don’t hit her at a hard side.
-Tying her. This can be arousing too. When you tie a part of her body- make sure the tie is hard, but safe and is not hurting her in any way (this can be a turn-off).
Dirty talking:
This will arouse her very much as long as you do it properly (with deep, controlled and passionate voice). This will not work if there is even a little amount of hesitation in you. Things you should aim at are:
-Tell her about how much you want her (I want to cum inside you tight little wet pussy, I’ve been waiting whole day to put my dick inside you pussy etc).
-Tell her how she wants you (You’ve been waiting whole day for me to fuck your bitchy ass haven’t you?, You want me to fuck that tight pussy of yours, don’t you)
-Tell her how bad girl she is (slut, bitch, dirty little girl etc).
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like.
Emotional and romantic- the novel romantic and emotional man who arouses her emotions to an unseen level. Emotion talking is his weapon and is the master of emotion (good or bad- love, sensitive feelings or feelings like anger and teasing). Sex with him is like your two souls are becoming one. When he has sex he watches deeply in a woman’s eyes and lets her know that she is loved. He does not fuck furiously, he goes slowly, but with every thrust the emotion and connection between him and the woman increases slowly. He touches her lightly and fondles the woman sensually.
Emotion talking:
This will also arouse her very much as long as you do it properly- deep, controlled and passionate voice is required here too. Anything that makes her feel emotionally closer to you will work.
Calm and tantric- the one who has complete mental stillness and remains calm throughout the sexual act. Sex with him is like a dream. He does not let the woman have any distracting thought from sex and thus, takes this pleasurable act to a whole new level. He has no thoughts- does not plan what, when, how or for how long to do it. His biggest strength is targeting the relaxation mental predisposal technique with a huge emphasis on the self relaxation techniques mentioned above. A helpful tool if his is meditation- this is the time when he not only trains himself to shut every thought off of his head, but the time when he finds overall health needing therapeutic procedure of relaxation at its top levels.
Possession talking.
Letting her know that she is yours can even further arouse her. Adding this to your bedroom talking techniques will get things on a whole new level. It doesn’t matter if you’re using dominant (“Your pussy is mine and mine only, you little slut. I’ve been waiting whole day to fuck my wet, little pussy” or emotional (“I love my babe, this pussy of mine is all I need. This is one of my pussies I love the most. ” talking. Creativeness is what should be applied not only here, but in every aspect of sex. Another thing that can be added to your possession techniques over her is making her know that you are superior to her, make her call you “master”.
Your looks.
A good looking and sexy body is always a big turn on. The thought of having sex with someone sexy and hot is very arousing on its own- and really having sex with someone sexy is even more arousing. Sport, diet and willpower are what you need, nothing more.
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Emotion.
A lot of men like to be very informed about sex. They read everywhere and learn everything there is to know. While having a good knowledge on sex is very good- making the primitive act a matter of geometrical angles, time and amount force applied, takes the emotion and passion out of sex and puts too much logic in it. Women do not want a gynecologist making experiments with them- they want a passionate, dominative lover. It is a big turn-off to see someone have sex with his “playing chess” face.
Teasing.
Be unpredictable- sometimes don’t tease her, other times change the teasing type you apply. You must start teasing her once she is aroused to a certain level- not in the beginning. This can be a double-edged sword, but if used properly (when she sees that you are just toying with her instead of trying to hurt her inner emotions) can lead to amazing sex. Apply this technique with caution. You can:
- Start making out with her a little aggressively and suddenly stop for some time- then, grab her and start over again.
- Erogenous zone teasing- a good example is the nipples- go slowly down and when she expects you to lick them and stimulate them- just stop and begin breathing slowly and warmly around her nipples. You can try something similar with her vagina and your tongue/fingers also- simply avoid stimulating the clit directly and start toying around it-slowly, but romantically.
- Pre-fucking teasing- just start rubbing your dick all around her vagina and lips. After you have done this- put in your head and then slowly get it out and start rubbing again. Do this for a while and when she is even more turned on- put it in at once and fast.
- Sex teasing. Put some of your dick inside and let her beg for more. Tell her that she is too small for you. Fuck her shallow and slow- make her beg for it- and when she is even more turned on- put in and annihilate her.
- Not yet teasing. Start playing with her and suddenly stop. Get her bra off, start sucking her nipples and then put it back on. You can do this with her panties or when you lick her- stop- insert your head inside her- tell her that she is not ready yet- and go back to licking again.
- Abandoning teasing. When you are licking her and she is ready for sexual intercourse and very aroused- get out of the room and leave her alone there for 20-30 seconds and then come back completely naked, jump on her and destroy her.
- Stop-go teasing. When you fuck her and you feel that she is really close to orgasm- suddenly stop and wait for a few seconds. This is a really advanced form and would be further upgraded if you are in a public place fucking and you suddenly tell her you have to go. On your way back- tell her how you wanted to fuck that wet pussy of hers and when you get back (home or not) you can finish what you started.
Forbidden.
Make her feel like you both are doing something you should or that is against the average person’s principles. A good example of this is constantly letting her know that what you are doing is wrong or bad- when you are having sex on a place you should not etc.
Physical stimulation techniques.
Erogenous zones targeting.
An accurate definition of “erogenous zones” is any area of the body especially sensitive to sexual stimulation. These especially sensitive to sexual stimulation zones, if properly targeted, will lead to higher levels of woman’s arousal. There are different ways to stimulate the zones and their rules are no different from each other’s. If there is something that should be known in a more specific detail- it will be specially mentioned under the erogenous zone title. The different zones of the female body are:
Lips and tongue.
What is specific here is that the only hand stimulation that should be used here is using a finger to gently go through her lips and then start kissing her passionately.
Vagina and clitoris.
What is specific about the vagina and clitoris is that it should not be the first zone you target. And if it is- it’s better to be simultaneously targeted with another one. It is very sensitive and should be stimulated with caution.
Breast and nipples.
The only thing that is worth to mention is that this zone is best stimulated in circular-clockwise motions.
Wrists.
What you should remember is to watch not to target this zone alone by itself. Aim for a simultaneous stimulation here.
Feet.
Everything here is the same. The only different thing worth to mention is that when licking, you should aim at the toes most of the time.
Ears.
When targeting this one remember that it’s not the whole ear that most women want stimulated- it only the lobule, antihelix and behind ears.
Buttocks.
This one can handle very rough stimulation. Do not worry to squeeze, strong-massage or slap. If you massage- the rule of the circular-clockwise motion applies.
Neck.
What you should remember here is that this zone is very sensitive to breathing and you might want to apply this technique while stimulating.
Inner tights.
It is best to start with light fondling and then move to bigger intensity.
Behind the knees.
Again, fondling is best at the start. Only massage techniques work best here.
Scalp and hair.
This one is best massaged. What you should remember about this one is that as you get better and better at this technique- you can include hair pulling to get things more arousing.
Back.
The back is a zone that can tolerate more force. You can lick-breathe the neck and simultaneously massage her back. Scalp combinations can be applied too.
Massage- Massaging is an excellent way to target all of the erogenous zones. Some zones may require you to apply more force (wrists, feet, buttocks, inner tights, behind the knees, scalp and hair, neck, back and lower abdomen) than others (lips and tongue and breast and nipples).
But what you should remember is that- when applying massage- you should always begin slowly and steadily and increase speed (increasing speed does not mean doing so dramatically- it is best to go slightly faster, not a lot) slowly with time. A good thing to remember about massaging is to aim to target the whole zone and not just a little part of it only (even if the zone is small- such as the vagina and clitoris- make sure you target the whole of it instead of focusing on a little part of it only (clitoris might be an exception)) . If you repeat the same massage speed, force and massage at the same spot- this will stop being so stimulating. A good technique that can be kept in mind is teasing- simply massage very close to her erogenous zone and when she is properly teased- start stimulating the zone itself.
Tongue- Licking is a very good stimulation technique too. It is not very different from massage- its rules about teasing force, intensity and speed and not-only spot stimulation are the same. Certain erogenous zones are better targeted with tongue (lips, vagina and clitoris, breast and nipples), but since every woman reacts different to different stimulation- there is no rule.
Breathing- A very good technique, mostly applied for teasing. Its rules are no different, but what you must always remember is to breathe slowly and offer her as warm breath as possible.
Some zones can be targeted simultaneously- the reason there is no special order or combination advised is that you are the ones who know what you like. Stimulate zones you know she likes (if you know each other well enough). A good example of simultaneous erogenous zone targeting is kissing (or licking or breathing) her (vagina, clitoris, breast, lips etc.) and having her inner tight at around 135 angle (with her foot on the bed) and massaging it and slowly massaging it. Put your creativity into play and think of something- there are hundreds of combinations of different erogenous zones targeting and different ways to target them (massaging, breathing or licking).
This thread is further combined with my other threads in my signature. The rest of this should be ready in a few to several years .Now, my brothers, you are free to give your critiques, tell me what I have missed to cover, what incorrect information I have given and advices and experience. I truly hope this thread makes a change in at least one man's life. Now..... COMMENT
). I know that this is the "Masturbation and Ejaculation" forum, but since the "Sexuality" forum is rarely visited these days (at least from what I see, correct me if I'm wrong) I want as many people as possible to see this and share their experience, their knowledge and advices. Everyone, Don't be afraid or hesitate whether to comment or not- let us all learn from each others mistakes and experience and develop ourselves as one, because we are brothers, we are men. This thread required SOME time and effort, but I am happy to finally give you my almost finished thread (what I will not cover here and will leave empty is the way to stimulate the erogenous zones, the different kind of orgasms a woman can have, and the techniques to give them all types of different orgasms. It requires even more research, but this first part is very important too. And with all of your help (hope you help ) we'll have the thread finished. This is in no way a step by step guide- this is simply a thread where everyone shared his knowledge. Here it is (proud) :What is female sexual satisfaction?
What should be realized about this is that orgasm is the definition of orgasm, but the definition of female sexual satisfaction lies much deeper- it is giving her not only an enormous sexual orgasmic pleasure a multiple times, but emotionally pleasuring her also.
Women sexual satisfaction triggers:
Mental stimulation.
Mental stimulation is the key to satisfying sex. The more mentally stimulated a woman is- the more pleasured the sexual intercourse will be. Mental stimulation has its two divisions:
Mental predisposal.
Mental predisposal is what will take all of her anti-pleasure shields off- it is what will make her prone to over-arousal- it is the key to satisfying sex. So what are these anti-pleasure shields that women have? They are called- Anxiety, Distance, Threat and Boredom.
Relaxation.
It is when the woman feels calm. You must make her feel completely relaxed and far away from all the problems she has (whether it be problems at work, with friends, family problems or any other problem she might have).
Connection.
It is when the woman feels loved and appreciated. You must make her feel like when she is with you- she is in the company of someone that values her.
Security.
It is when the woman feels completely secure. You must make her feel like when she is with you- she will always be protected and safe.
Excitement.
It is when the woman feels excited about sex. You must provide variety to your relationship and never let things get predictable or boring.
Mental arousal.
The more aroused a woman is- the easier she will be pleasured. Over-arousal is the biggest factor for fast and easy ejaculation/satisfaction. If a woman is over-aroused- orgasm may take place within a few minutes after the start of sexual foreplay or intercourse. Mentally stimulating her should always be your number one goal.
Example: A perfect example of this would be sex toys. Women can always get bigger, harder and never ejaculating multi-functional toys, but the reason why they choose men is that physical only stimulation is not enough for them.
Example: A good example for this is raping. Even though rapists might use some really good sexual techniques- they have still given the most nightmarish night in a woman’s life- it is because psychological stimulation was in a complete lack.
Physical stimulation.
While not the most important aspect of overall sexual stimulation, physical stimulation is vitally important for amazing sex. It is what further enhances the power of mental stimulation. When a girl is over aroused and would orgasm in a time frame of 10-20 minutes after the start of a normal sexual foreplay/intercourse, this time frame could go as low as a minute or two when proper and advanced techniques are being used.
Techniques.
Mental predisposal techniques.
Relaxation.
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. Good ideas are:
-Go on a vacation (far away from all the places that could remind her of her problems) at a nice hotel- somewhere near the Balkans, mountains, ocean or the seacoast.
-Visit the spa to get a nice therapeutic massage or some other treatment.
What you must realize is that if you cannot manage to deal with your relaxation- you will never be able to deal with hers. You must be completely calm, confident, mentally still and with no pressure. Stop worrying about:
-Penis size. While a bigger dick is a plus, it is not what matters the most in bed. If one has mastery over physical and mental stimulation- a woman will be satisfied.
-Man type. Stop thinking what is right or not- or what you should be or not- dominant or emotional. Social media has spammed that women like/don’t emotional guys, and they like/don’t dominant guys. The truth actually lies in between- they like both at once and want both at once.
-Moral. Sex is treated like something that is immoral and wrong, but the only thing that is wrong is this belief. Sex is absolutely normal act of reproduction and an act of pleasure that all people need and crave.
-Player or nerd. People who have had bad experience in bed have hard time relaxing and letting go of what has happened before. It is something really normal- not to be able to satisfy a woman a several times. It could have been her fault for not letting herself go of excess worries and thoughts. Re-write and reprogram your mindset and stop caring if you satisfy her or not- big woof if she is not satisfied, it is not the end of the world, you’re satisfied aren’t you- that’s enough.
-Desire. Some people think that women do not want sex. This is absolutely not true. This is something that brings enormous pleasure to us, people, we enjoy it and we desperately need it.
Pressure.
Never let yourself being pressured. Kill all pressure with humor -no matter what happens- humor can fight it and get you out of the uncomfortable situation. But be careful not to hurt her when you make a joke.
Some females may want you to feel bad and guilty for every mistake of yours. If you find yourself in such a company- simply make a rude humor out of it and go on with sex- then leave her (this is usually not recommended, but if that’s what you must do to be left with no pressure or guilt- do it- don’t let your overall confidence suffer). Go rude only if you don’t care about her (otherwise you can hurt your relationship) - but never let yourself be insulted no matter what anyone tells you
Good humor example:
You take your clothes off and she tells you you’re fat and have a big belly. You tell her that a big fish is only found under a big rock.
You fall on the floor and make a noisy ouch. When she asks you where you hit yourself- just point at your penis and tell her to kiss it, so it cures faster.
Rude humor example:
She tells you your dick is small or laughs at you for not being able to get a good Erection quality- and you simply tell her that the low erection quality is because she’s ugly and does not turn you on.
Connection.
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. Good ideas are:
-Making her feel accepted and appreciated by giving her trust and showing her that you have feelings for her.
-Noting your appeal to her saying something like “I love you, babe” could mean a lot to her.
-Showing your love with actions and no words.
I would advise you to tell her that you love her not that often, because once she hears it 50 times- it could lose its special meaning.
-Post-sex act- After sexual experience women are very vulnerable and easy to connect to. What is really important here is to show your affection to her after the sexual act with a strong dominant-emotional hug and some emotion-possession talking.
Security.
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. Good ideas are:
-Giving her a powerful touch (whether it be a massage or hug), applying a little force could make her feel that she is in the company of a powerful man.
-Improving your looks to give out the look of a strong man every time she looks at you.
-You can even help her with some of her problems. This would make her feel that if she ever falls into trouble- she has her hero to come and save her.
Excitement.
After trying something exciting- it gets boring and this is where variety kicks in. Providing a lot of variety is a must (and not only in, but outside the bed- women are human beings and as such- they do not want to live a boring, unadventurous life). When the girl knows what is coming next every single time- you will get boring to her and eventually she will stop having interest towards you. Not providing variety is how the spark slowly, but surely disappears in a relationship. If there is no spark- the woman will eventually and most likely cheat on you or leave you.
Mental excitement variety.
1-Change (or add) the sex fantasy scenario- where you start fantasizing using clothes and the power of acting as your tool. Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like. You can experiment with:
-The naughty student fantasy.
-The policeman and the bad girl fantasy.
-The policewoman and the bad boy.
-The having sex against one’s will fantasy.
-The having sex with a complete stranger fantasy.
-The best friend- into lover fantasy.
-The angry couple having wild sex fantasy.
-The gym coach and the one who does not know how to train sex fantasy.
-The technician coming to fix something sex fantasy.
-The new neighbor sex fantasy.
-The thief in the house sex fantasy.
-The sex while being asleep fantasy.
-The hypnotist and his new victim sex fantasy.
-The “what do I have to do to be hired” sex fantasy
-The secretary sex fantasy
-The secret lover of a married (man, woman) fantasy.
-The problem man going to female urologist sex fantasy.
-The problem woman going to male gynecologist sex fantasy.
-The (guy, girl) who went to the (male, female) sexologist fantasy.
-The tied up/stuck and can’t move sex fantasy.
-The step family sex fantasy.
-The one who tried to physically harm the other one punisHydromaxent sex fantasy.
-The classmate going to the toilet sex fantasy.
-The stuck together in one place with no moving out of there for a long time sex fantasy.
-The biting, scratching, beating sex fantasy.
2- Change the places you are having sex in. Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like.
-In the elevator.
-In the mall dress room.
-In the bushes.
-At home, but having the door or window wide open.
-In the public toilet.
-In the restaurant restroom.
-Playing with each-other under the table in the restaurant.
-In someone else’s house.
-In the local hospital.
-In public parks.
-In a different room.
-In her office.
-In a romantic bathtub (with candles and aroma-liquids inside).
-In front of a roaring fire.
-In her parent’s bedroom.
Physical excitement variety.
1-Sex position and orgasm change.
Change the sex positions you are currently using- go from certain orgasm inducing sex positions to others. Bring her different types of orgasms constantly. Experiment based on what you know she likes.
2-Foreplay change.
Use different type and amount of foreplay techniques every time. One time it is fingering a lot, other time it is licking a lot, other time licking a little, other time do no foreplay at all and another time is a combination of a little licking and a lot of fingering.
3-Sex type change.
Shape shift. Women want it all at once (during sex), so make sure you give her all types of lovers. Once go slow and emotional, other times go fast, wild and dominant.
4-Ejaculation change.
Change the places you ejaculate on her- sometimes on her lower back, sometimes on her face, sometimes in her ass, sometimes make her swallow.
5-Food and drink experiment change.
-Put some sour cream on her and lick it.
-Drink wine or champagne from her belly.
-Add any kind of romantic food (burgers are not) on her erogenous zones and eat it.
Outside of bed.
Outside of bed (sexual).
-Make a trail to the bedroom with rose leafs.
-Romantic dinner.
Outside of bed (non-sexual).
-A sudden trip to another country.
Let your creativity and impulsiveness take over. You are the ones who know what you like.
Mental arousal techniques.
Personality change.
Women need all of the below mentioned at once and this is why it is important to switch from one to another and combine them altogether. There are a few types of lovers a woman can have:
Dominant and rude- the one who takes sex as a primitive act, the beast of sex (dirty talking and manhandling). Sex with him is rude and aggressive. He is master of dirty talking. When you are dominant you must know that sex is a primitive action- when you do it- you do not ask whether you can change the positions or try something new- you just grab her, put her on her knees, stick your dick in her face and say suck my cock, bitch (being hesitant and asking if you can or cannot is a big turn-off). Even if she starts to resist at the start- you need to give her what she does not have the courage to do. Simply put- when you have sex- you don’t make love- you fuck. Dominance is the reason why the media has popularized the “bad boy” sexual archetype.
Dominance - Making love and showing respect is nice- but not what a woman actually needs. Even though the mainstream magazines have implanted that into a man’s mind- women want to be helpless and under a strong man’s control. Dominance itself is the reason why the “bad boy” archetype got so famous amongst our sexual society.
-The dominant lover fucks her furiously. He does not hold himself back. He knows it is really important not to let her hold her orgasm back- even if she resists- he becomes even more furious for her to ejaculate.
-The dominant lover knows that certain sexual positions are much more dominant than others. His best choice are the ones where he is the one who has action in his hands.
Dominance (violence)-Violent sex works best once you have the girl feeling very close to you and very aroused- it is what even further increases arousal. Apply a considerable mount of force only when you are sure she likes it. You can do:
-Hitting her on the door. Grab her with her back against the door, slam her to it and start getting a little aggressive. While this will not cause pain- it will sure turn her on (especially when the noise occurs, because this will further excite her).
-Ripping her clothes apart. Be careful not to rip a cloth she really likes. When you do it with her panties- while applying strength- pull to the side so the pressure falls on the hip and does not hurt her (it is not such a sensitive zone).
-Pulling her hair. Make sure you grab her close to the roots and pull lightly- if she likes it a lot- you can apply a little more intensity.
-Spanking. The ass cheeks are a part of the body where women can take considerable amount of pain and, therefore, a certain amount of force can be applied.
-Grabbing her neck lightly. Make sure not to overdo it with the intensity- a light grip will do the job.
-Throwing her at the bed. Grab her and throw her on the bed with her back. Make sure you don’t hit her at a hard side.
-Tying her. This can be arousing too. When you tie a part of her body- make sure the tie is hard, but safe and is not hurting her in any way (this can be a turn-off).
Dirty talking:
This will arouse her very much as long as you do it properly (with deep, controlled and passionate voice). This will not work if there is even a little amount of hesitation in you. Things you should aim at are:
-Tell her about how much you want her (I want to cum inside you tight little wet pussy, I’ve been waiting whole day to put my dick inside you pussy etc).
-Tell her how she wants you (You’ve been waiting whole day for me to fuck your bitchy ass haven’t you?, You want me to fuck that tight pussy of yours, don’t you)
-Tell her how bad girl she is (slut, bitch, dirty little girl etc).
Creativeness and experimentation is what should be applied- only you know what you like.
Emotional and romantic- the novel romantic and emotional man who arouses her emotions to an unseen level. Emotion talking is his weapon and is the master of emotion (good or bad- love, sensitive feelings or feelings like anger and teasing). Sex with him is like your two souls are becoming one. When he has sex he watches deeply in a woman’s eyes and lets her know that she is loved. He does not fuck furiously, he goes slowly, but with every thrust the emotion and connection between him and the woman increases slowly. He touches her lightly and fondles the woman sensually.
Emotion talking:
This will also arouse her very much as long as you do it properly- deep, controlled and passionate voice is required here too. Anything that makes her feel emotionally closer to you will work.
Calm and tantric- the one who has complete mental stillness and remains calm throughout the sexual act. Sex with him is like a dream. He does not let the woman have any distracting thought from sex and thus, takes this pleasurable act to a whole new level. He has no thoughts- does not plan what, when, how or for how long to do it. His biggest strength is targeting the relaxation mental predisposal technique with a huge emphasis on the self relaxation techniques mentioned above. A helpful tool if his is meditation- this is the time when he not only trains himself to shut every thought off of his head, but the time when he finds overall health needing therapeutic procedure of relaxation at its top levels.
Possession talking.
Letting her know that she is yours can even further arouse her. Adding this to your bedroom talking techniques will get things on a whole new level. It doesn’t matter if you’re using dominant (“Your pussy is mine and mine only, you little slut. I’ve been waiting whole day to fuck my wet, little pussy”
or emotional (“I love my babe, this pussy of mine is all I need. This is one of my pussies I love the most. ” talking. Creativeness is what should be applied not only here, but in every aspect of sex. Another thing that can be added to your possession techniques over her is making her know that you are superior to her, make her call you “master”. Your looks.
A good looking and sexy body is always a big turn on. The thought of having sex with someone sexy and hot is very arousing on its own- and really having sex with someone sexy is even more arousing. Sport, diet and willpower are what you need, nothing more.
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Emotion.
A lot of men like to be very informed about sex. They read everywhere and learn everything there is to know. While having a good knowledge on sex is very good- making the primitive act a matter of geometrical angles, time and amount force applied, takes the emotion and passion out of sex and puts too much logic in it. Women do not want a gynecologist making experiments with them- they want a passionate, dominative lover. It is a big turn-off to see someone have sex with his “playing chess” face.
Teasing.
Be unpredictable- sometimes don’t tease her, other times change the teasing type you apply. You must start teasing her once she is aroused to a certain level- not in the beginning. This can be a double-edged sword, but if used properly (when she sees that you are just toying with her instead of trying to hurt her inner emotions) can lead to amazing sex. Apply this technique with caution. You can:
- Start making out with her a little aggressively and suddenly stop for some time- then, grab her and start over again.
- Erogenous zone teasing- a good example is the nipples- go slowly down and when she expects you to lick them and stimulate them- just stop and begin breathing slowly and warmly around her nipples. You can try something similar with her vagina and your tongue/fingers also- simply avoid stimulating the clit directly and start toying around it-slowly, but romantically.
- Pre-fucking teasing- just start rubbing your dick all around her vagina and lips. After you have done this- put in your head and then slowly get it out and start rubbing again. Do this for a while and when she is even more turned on- put it in at once and fast.
- Sex teasing. Put some of your dick inside and let her beg for more. Tell her that she is too small for you. Fuck her shallow and slow- make her beg for it- and when she is even more turned on- put in and annihilate her.
- Not yet teasing. Start playing with her and suddenly stop. Get her bra off, start sucking her nipples and then put it back on. You can do this with her panties or when you lick her- stop- insert your head inside her- tell her that she is not ready yet- and go back to licking again.
- Abandoning teasing. When you are licking her and she is ready for sexual intercourse and very aroused- get out of the room and leave her alone there for 20-30 seconds and then come back completely naked, jump on her and destroy her.
- Stop-go teasing. When you fuck her and you feel that she is really close to orgasm- suddenly stop and wait for a few seconds. This is a really advanced form and would be further upgraded if you are in a public place fucking and you suddenly tell her you have to go. On your way back- tell her how you wanted to fuck that wet pussy of hers and when you get back (home or not) you can finish what you started.
Forbidden.
Make her feel like you both are doing something you should or that is against the average person’s principles. A good example of this is constantly letting her know that what you are doing is wrong or bad- when you are having sex on a place you should not etc.
Physical stimulation techniques.
Erogenous zones targeting.
An accurate definition of “erogenous zones” is any area of the body especially sensitive to sexual stimulation. These especially sensitive to sexual stimulation zones, if properly targeted, will lead to higher levels of woman’s arousal. There are different ways to stimulate the zones and their rules are no different from each other’s. If there is something that should be known in a more specific detail- it will be specially mentioned under the erogenous zone title. The different zones of the female body are:
Lips and tongue.
What is specific here is that the only hand stimulation that should be used here is using a finger to gently go through her lips and then start kissing her passionately.
Vagina and clitoris.
What is specific about the vagina and clitoris is that it should not be the first zone you target. And if it is- it’s better to be simultaneously targeted with another one. It is very sensitive and should be stimulated with caution.
Breast and nipples.
The only thing that is worth to mention is that this zone is best stimulated in circular-clockwise motions.
Wrists.
What you should remember is to watch not to target this zone alone by itself. Aim for a simultaneous stimulation here.
Feet.
Everything here is the same. The only different thing worth to mention is that when licking, you should aim at the toes most of the time.
Ears.
When targeting this one remember that it’s not the whole ear that most women want stimulated- it only the lobule, antihelix and behind ears.
Buttocks.
This one can handle very rough stimulation. Do not worry to squeeze, strong-massage or slap. If you massage- the rule of the circular-clockwise motion applies.
Neck.
What you should remember here is that this zone is very sensitive to breathing and you might want to apply this technique while stimulating.
Inner tights.
It is best to start with light fondling and then move to bigger intensity.
Behind the knees.
Again, fondling is best at the start. Only massage techniques work best here.
Scalp and hair.
This one is best massaged. What you should remember about this one is that as you get better and better at this technique- you can include hair pulling to get things more arousing.
Back.
The back is a zone that can tolerate more force. You can lick-breathe the neck and simultaneously massage her back. Scalp combinations can be applied too.
Massage- Massaging is an excellent way to target all of the erogenous zones. Some zones may require you to apply more force (wrists, feet, buttocks, inner tights, behind the knees, scalp and hair, neck, back and lower abdomen) than others (lips and tongue and breast and nipples).
But what you should remember is that- when applying massage- you should always begin slowly and steadily and increase speed (increasing speed does not mean doing so dramatically- it is best to go slightly faster, not a lot) slowly with time. A good thing to remember about massaging is to aim to target the whole zone and not just a little part of it only (even if the zone is small- such as the vagina and clitoris- make sure you target the whole of it instead of focusing on a little part of it only (clitoris might be an exception)) . If you repeat the same massage speed, force and massage at the same spot- this will stop being so stimulating. A good technique that can be kept in mind is teasing- simply massage very close to her erogenous zone and when she is properly teased- start stimulating the zone itself.
Tongue- Licking is a very good stimulation technique too. It is not very different from massage- its rules about teasing force, intensity and speed and not-only spot stimulation are the same. Certain erogenous zones are better targeted with tongue (lips, vagina and clitoris, breast and nipples), but since every woman reacts different to different stimulation- there is no rule.
Breathing- A very good technique, mostly applied for teasing. Its rules are no different, but what you must always remember is to breathe slowly and offer her as warm breath as possible.
Some zones can be targeted simultaneously- the reason there is no special order or combination advised is that you are the ones who know what you like. Stimulate zones you know she likes (if you know each other well enough). A good example of simultaneous erogenous zone targeting is kissing (or licking or breathing) her (vagina, clitoris, breast, lips etc.) and having her inner tight at around 135 angle (with her foot on the bed) and massaging it and slowly massaging it. Put your creativity into play and think of something- there are hundreds of combinations of different erogenous zones targeting and different ways to target them (massaging, breathing or licking).
This thread is further combined with my other threads in my signature. The rest of this should be ready in a few to several years
.Now, my brothers, you are free to give your critiques, tell me what I have missed to cover, what incorrect information I have given and advices and experience. I truly hope this thread makes a change in at least one man's life. Now..... COMMENT
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